Jacks Growing Independence

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My little Jack is turning 10 months on Aug 14th. That is only a measly 2 months from being a whole year old, and I for one am sad. Why should I be sad? My son is growing and thriving, he is happy and playful. Over the last few weeks, Jack has gotten his first tooth, taken his first steps, starting sleeping in his own bed (well not the whole night), & started to wean himself from breast feeding.

While all of those things I just mentioned seem like good things, and they are good, they are also terrible. Terrible because they all lead to independence from ME. My baby is turning into a boy, and boys grow up to be teenagers and then when they are about 40, they turn into adult men… I’m kidding about the last part, well kind of. And adult men do not and should not cuddle with their mothers.

Until the last few weeks, Jack has needed me in every single part of his daily life. In fact for the first 10 months in utero and much of his infancy thus far, he has needed me to stay alive. So his growing independence is bitter sweet. I am having so much fun playing with him, reading him books and finding new ways to make him laugh. But I am also finding myself missing my baby, he is in the same apartment, even the same room sometimes and I will start to cry. He has only begun to wean so he is still nursing a few times a day but it still saddens me. Sometimes I will offer to nurse him and he will slide off my lap to retrieve his noonie or a toy. REJECTED! That is the only way to describe what I feel when he would rather do other things when I am offering him the milk I have worked so hard to produce.

I am sure that this is just the natural progression of things and that my feelings toward these changes are normal. I can see why people tend to get pregnant again so soon after the weaning of a child. There is a longing in the heart of a mother for her baby to be snuggled up against her in the dead of the night where in those moments, they are the only 2 who exist.

 

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Natural Birth Resources in Louisiana

Louisiana natural birth link

Most women think that they do not have many options when it comes to the birth experience but even more commonly than that, women do not even give it a thought at all.

The standard practice in the US is that a woman gets pregnant, schedules an appointment with an obstetrician, goes through a series of vaginal exams, ultrasounds and if she’s lucky escapes with a medicated vaginal birth. I say lucky because 1/3 of the women in the US will give birth via cesarean section. Which is necessary in some few cases. This has become the “normal” birth. But what is/ should be “normal” birth?
That is something that every mother must ask herself.

Do your research, know your options and decide for yourself what you want, are comfortable with and how you will feel about each choice. The only wrong choice is not choosing at all but relinquishing your body to a medical provider that many times does not practice informed consent.

Below is a list of natural birth educators, doulas, midwives and written resources. Most of these women will talk with you free of charge and help you discover what it is that you truly need and want for your birth experience.

Midwives

Emmy Trammell 985-974-2724

Alina Gardner Brmidwife@gmail.com

Sally Acosta 985-259-3557

Sherri Daigle 225-293-5836

Lynette Robinson at Gentle Choices birthing center 337-501-2916

Anne Lastrapes 337-278-4354

Doula/educational services

Lacey Hebert http://tolbirth.com/index.php/about

Nicki Pugh 225-819-7977 or visit her on Facebook at Old River Doula

Nola Nesting 504-655-1819 or visit them online by clicking here.

Jenny Dickerson 985-320-0016

Kira Smith 337-366-0303 http://www.motherbirthla.com/#2755

Rene Johnson Birth Help http://www.birthhelp.com/

My recommended reading list:

Spiritual Midwifery by Ina May Gaskin
Ina Mays Guide to Childbirth
Active Birth by Janet Balaskas
Baby Catcher by Peggy Vincent
Pushed by Jennifer Block
Your Best Birth by Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein

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Breast Feeding Is Not Against The LAW!

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Breast Feeding Is Not Against The LAW!

Breastfeeding is not against the law, well at least in Louisiana it’s not. That’s where Jack and I live, and we nurse wherever, whenever he is hungry.

I nurse in public for one reason and one reason alone. That reason is: My son is my priority, not the comfort of others. PERIOD. I will not deny my son food when he is hungry in order to please people that I do not know, and may never see again.

Let me say this though. Even though I do NOT think breast feeding is sexual in any way, as a Christian I try to be modest. I do not want to be a stumbling block to those around me. When I say modest, I mean as modest as possible with a flailing 8 month old on my lap, that will not tolerate a blanket or a standard nursing cover over his head while he eats. So I wear nursing friendly clothes and multiple layers to show the least amount of skin and boob possible. That is what I am comfortable with and what works for Jack and I.

I feel that all babies should eat when hungry and all mothers be able to nurse those hungry babies without fear of attack.

I know of someone locally that while feeding her baby in a restroom at a public shopping mall was told that she was turning her baby into a slut or a lesbian by doing that (breast feeding).

Then of course you hear of the women being kicked out of restaurants and denied their law given right to pump at work or on an airplane even.

The point of this post is- Know Your Rights! Look up your state law regarding breast feeding and save it on your cell phone. Keep it with you I case you need to utilize it while nursing in public.

Here is a link where you can find the laws by state.

http://m.ncsl.org/issues-research/health/breastfeeding-state-laws.aspx

Keep your head up nursing mama and do right by your baby!

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No One Told Me…

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No One Told Me…

Everyone that I encountered in the natural birth community told me about the wonderful experience child birth could be. You know… about the power within me, the rush of love hormones immediately after and the great sense of accomplishment that would come with delivering my own baby.

While all of those wonderful things turned out to be true, there were a few other “experiences” that went unmentioned.

No one told me:

1. That after the love hormones subsided, I would feel like a freight train hit me.

– I mean come on, that would’ve been use information! I could have prepared differently to aid the recovery process.

2. The painful swelling of my nether regions after birth.

– No one and I mean no one talks about this. And why would they? It’s horrifying especially if You end up with stitches like I did (19). But again, had I realized this, I could be invested in some site bath herbs or numbing spray ahead of time.

3. That my body would transform into something resembling a tube sock filled with lumpy sausage gravy.

-This one was unavoidable so even if I had known, I could not have prevented this. But no one told me nonetheless…

4. My libido would become non existent and the thought (let alone the act) of “relations” would cause such pain.

-This is a biggie. I only have 2 thoughts on the matter. Ouch & my poor patient husband, God Bless him.

5. That Breastfeeding may not be easy. Or that I would continue to have contractions every time I fed the baby.

-Set proper expectations people! I have actually written a whole post about my traumatizing Breastfeeding experience. You can read it by clicking here.

I know we should focus on the positives of every situation instead of the negatives. BUT! I feel that setting proper expectations are vital to an overall fulfilling experience and necessary for adequate preparation.

If you are a mother reading this- what did you find surprising after birth that NO ONE TOLD YOU?

Me at 37 weeks pregnant with Jackson

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The Moby Wrap

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The moby wrap – ^^Thats Jack and his not so crunchy dad!

What is it?

A fabric wrap used to carry an infant on ones person.

Features:

One solid piece
One size fits most (there is a special order extra long available though)
Various colors, prints, UV and organic options available
Machine washable
Can be worn by males or females

Summary:

Our Moby wrap was a valuable item when my son was first born. I would wrap him very tightly from birth and walk with him outside. It seemed to give him a sense of security and comfort. His father or I would walk him behind our apartment buildings under tall pine trees. Needles and cones were strewn all about and the smell of pine was in the air. No doubt about it, our son loved the outdoors and nothing else would satisfy him.

(You see Jack was born angry, he had colic from day one. He would scream all hours of the day and night. This went on for 2 solid months until it vanished suddenly as if it had never happened at all. )

I don’t know what we would’ve done without the Moby wrap? Maybe zipped him up inside a sweater against us? Who knows. But the Moby provided a comfortable way to carry our infant close to our bodies.

The long piece of fabric was bothersome to tie and took too much time. Especially when your baby is crying frantically but the one solid piece is supposed to be a selling point as there are no buckles or rings to break or cause discomfort for the wearer.

My husband enjoyed wearing our son in the Moby and being able to have close intimate contact with him the days following birth.

I also used the Moby to get skin to skin contact by wearing Jack in a diaper directly against my bare chest. This allowed him to nurse freely and boost my milk supply.

Jack did happen to pee all over the Moby and I can tell you how nice it was to be able to put it right into the washing machine to clean it.

As Jack approached the 2 month mark he started to fight being worn in this particular carrier. It no longer seemed to comfort him but rather aggravate him greatly. We discontinued its use at that time.

Moby wraps retail $47.95-62.95
On the manufactures website which you can visit by clicking here

Because of the price and the fact that we were only able to use this product for 2 months I give it 3.5/5

You know how I feel about supported local/small business so to purchase in the baton rouge, la area please visit Angel Britches by clicking here

Disclosure of Material Connection: I have not received any compensation for writing this post. I have no material connection to the brands, products, or services that I have mentioned. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Undercover Mama Nursing Tank

The Undercover Mama nursing tank.

What is it?

A strapless tank top with attachments to convert any shirt into a modest nursing top. One would simply attach the undercover mama tank to a clip down nursing bra and then layer any other shirt on top. Then when the baby is hungry and needs to nurse, simply lift the top layer, and unclip the bra. Babe is nursing with ease and mother’s back, sides and most of her chest is still covered.

Features:

Affordable 24.99-26.99 + 3.00 shipping online
Wide variety of colors and sizes
Comfortable stretchy fabric
Draws less attention than large bulky covers while nursing in public
2 types of attachments for your nursing bra

Summary:

Because it is affordable, just about any mama on any budget can own one or more of these tanks. I personally own 2… so far (i plan to order more very soon). The wide variety of colors make them easy to match with an over shirt from your existing wardrobe. There is also a lace trim option for dressy occasions. The sizing runs from XS-XXL means it will fit most who are interested in this product. Undercover mama recommends a size smaller than normally worn to achieve a snug fit. Plus after you are done nursing, you can still use it with regular bras due to the double attachment feature.

I find this product to be comfortable, practical and affordable. It is all that it claims to be. I give it a 5/5 rating.

Check out the undercover mama website by clicking HERE

Disclosure of Material Connection: I have not received any compensation for writing this post. I have no material connection to the brands, products, or services that I have mentioned. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”